When Our “No” Meets God’s “Yes”

Mar 17, 2012

When we moved from Chicago to Florida, we gave away all of our baby things. There was no reason to bring a bassinet, a baby swing, or a boppy pillow halfway across the country. Our family was complete.

Some friends asked me how I knew. I’m not sure what I said, but I know, looking back, that our decision felt like the most reasonable one. It felt right. It felt wise. I think it was wise, given our circumstances and what we thought we knew about our future.

The decision to try to grow your family is very emotional, and I can remember congratulating myself that I was able to say “no” to the idea so rationally. So reasonably. Of course, I’d always had a hard time getting pregnant and the first trimester of being pregnant was even harder. That may have had something to do with the ease with which I said “no more.”

Here’s something I’ve learned since moving to Florida: God’s gifts are not always rational or reasonable. In fact, I’m beginning to suspect that God is wildly unreasonable. And we – well, we are too easily content to stay within our comfort zones, to respect our limits, to steer clear of obstacles and hardship, while all along God desires to give us more.

I’m not necessarily talking about more babies. Or more money in the bank account. God’s more, at least in the beginning, may actually look like less. The money is shrinking. The troubles are multiplying. The mountains are growing.

Yet, there in our midst, is God, and he is longing to give us more, always more. If he is holding back it is for a season and for a purpose, but all through history his cry is the same: “I am the Lord your God, who brought you up out of Egypt. Open wide your mouth and I will fill it” (Psalm 81:10).

I heard those words from God way back in August. I can remember the goosebumps on my arms and the question in my head: “What is God about to do?” I was slightly excited and terribly afraid.

I don’t think I’ve yet glimpsed the full answer to my question. What is God about to do? What is he preparing to give? I know that there is always more. More than I’ve seen. More than I can imagine.

But I have seen one thing … and it is very good.

A small blur of a heart beating furiously on the ultrasound screen.

And I have felt the slightest flutters of new life being knit together.

We have forgotten our “no” and embraced God’s “yes,” and it feels like nothing less exhilarating than a feet-first jump into a rushing river.

baby toes

“There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God, the holy place where the Most High dwells.”

Psalm 46:4



  1. Katherine Loftin

    Beautifully written and we are rejoicing with you and your growing family. My friend’s daughter has three kids (ages 23, 19, 17) and little Sophie was born in January. She is such a blessing to all.

    • Christie Purifoy

      Thank you, Aunt Katherine! Perhaps the unasked-for, unexpected blessings are the sweetest. 🙂

  2. Danielle Diehl

    wow! congrats–that is so exciting! Yea for the Purifoys 🙂

  3. Sharon Mims

    A beautiful, unique announcement in such a manner as only you can share — congratulations…

  4. Mark

    Such a way with words!…gripping and captivating with that final burst of such terrific news!….love it

  5. Gillian

    Congratulations! Wishing you all every blessing!

  6. Lisa-Jo@thegypsymama

    Oh my goodness – are you saying what I THINK you’re saying???????

    • Christie Purifoy

      My belly is already huge, so I think it must be true, Lisa-Jo. 🙂 Due in late September.


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